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Some of you will get the title reference. You are my people. Thank you for existing.
The Rocky Horror Picture Show turns 40 this year. I’m not sure if this is old or young, because it’s always been an old movie for me. Even though I’ve seen it hundreds (literally) of times, it’s always seemed like something from the past, brought into the present for lonely souls like me. It was a holy relic, and we were the cult that formed around it.
For better or worse, Rocky Horror made me who I am.
I was always different, quiet, weird. I suppose the term is “socially awkward.” I was more comfortable playing alone or reading than with hanging out with friends. I had some success with sports (particularly baseball), but it never won me any friends. I was bullied in school, and no matter how many times I fought back, it never stopped (Every time someone says that if you stand up to a bully, they’ll stop, I want to laugh at them. It doesn’t stop, it escalates). I hid behind my long, greasy hair and didn’t speak to anyone. Eventually I stopped going to school and just lived my life as far from people as possible.
The doctors diagnosed me with Bipolar Syndrome. I got loaded up with Lithium (the only drug available at the time) and sent to a special school. It was the best thing that ever happened to me, but that’s a different story.
I’m not exactly sure how it happened, but that school was the link to Rocky. Like I said, it was Rocky that transformed me from a shy, awkward kid to a semi-outgoing, but even more awkward, adult.
I was 16, and I went with a friend from the special school and some of his friends. Suddenly I was surrounded by people in half-naked costumes and makeup, yelling, joking, and…hugging! I don’t think I had ever been hugged by a stranger until that first night, definitely the first time I was ever hugged by a man in fishnets. People were actually friendly to me. I was confused, titillated, and entranced. When the movie started and people started yelling awful things in unison, it was all over for me. It became an addiction. I ended up going every Saturday night, getting home at 3 or 4 in the morning (because you have to take over the local diner afterwards, order one plate of disco fries between 10 people, and drink coffee until you vibrate).
I think it was the anonymity of it all. In the dark, no one could judge you. You shed your outer self–the mask you wear for acceptance–and just let go. The thing was, I never had a mask, so I never had acceptance. Suddenly I was in a place where everyone was like me. For two hours a week, we were all equals.
I memorized every line and every call back. I made friends with other socially awkward people, so we could be awkward together. Yelling terrible things at a movie screen brought us together (like how Cards Against Humanity is such a great party game). Rocky was a vehicle that allowed me to be social in a judgment-free area.
As I got older, I got bolder. In college, me and my friend (I had friends now) staged a bi-weekly Rocky in our dorm lounge. I played Riff Raff and sometimes Eddie (and I was freaking good at it). It empowered me. In a few short years I went from hiding in corners to dancing in a spotlight.
I really wish I had pics of me performing.
So what did going to hundreds of Rocky Horror performances teach me? It taught me to get over it. I was so busy worrying about what people thought of me that I couldn’t be myself. There will always be people that judge, and those that will never accept you. Fuck them. Be yourself, be weird, and the people you want to be around will find you.
I’m proud of my weirdness now. I used to be afraid to say that I love D&D and cartoons. Now I shout it out. I’ll sing and dance in public. I’ll wear facepaint at a football game. I’ll embarrass myself, and I don’t care what people think.
It’s been a long time since I’ve seen Rocky in the theater, yet it’s still latched firmly in my heart. It makes me sad that there are only a few places to see it live now. Every generation needs something like Rocky, a place where the weird can be weird without fear of judgment.
The one near me closed down a good 15 years ago. There’s one within an hour of me, but I can never get up the will to go. I have no idea why. Maybe I don’t need Rocky anymore. Maybe I used to go as social therapy, and now I’m confident enough that I don’t need it. No. It’s because I can’t stay up till 3 or 4 in the morning anymore.
I’m old, Rocky is immortal.
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pass me my suspenders! saw it at richmond theatre a few years back, should be going again next year
I love the rocky horror picture show !
Then you’re in the right place 🙂
Nothing will.make me more happier than being where I belong 🙂
Welcome home. I’m making meat loaf…again 😉
This post hit home for me. Unfortunately I never got to experience Rocky live, we’re not that fortunate here in Ireland.. But I have loved Rocky for years, and I too have literally watched it over a hundred times! Rocky was my go-to film when I was younger, and still is now in my 20s and shall be well into my 60s, 70s & 80s. I was diagnosed Bipolar in my very early teens, I’ve been prescribed everything from Prozac to Lithium to a lifetime of benzos! Your post has the exact same message as Rocky. Be who you are. Thank you for that.. Saoirse.
Unfortunately, I have a long list of past and present meds as well. I’m glad that my words touched you like that. Rocky is something truly special.
I had no oportunity to live Rocky like you did, because I‛m brazilian and born at the 90’s, but that show made me few great too. It made me acept my straness. It’s a great show. I’m happy that you grew up aparently just fine! Hugs, stranger!
There’s a fantastic piece on the radiolab (podcast) ‘new normal’ on a guy who describes how the rocky horror show changed his life.
Oooh, I’ll have to check that out. Thank you.
This was fab! It’s so awesome to think that something that some people would class as insignificant (like going to see a movie) pretty much changed your life!
Thank you very much
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Loved this. We are all weird in some way. Good to find your people. And your voice! You have a great writing style.
This is amazing
Aw shucks. Thank you
god care u and care all from this disease…
hoping and pray for all
Loved your message here! There was a local theater that used to act it out live every weekend over the summer when I was in high school, those are some of my best memories ever!
I had forgotten what a great film this is I must get a copy of it, I got rid of all My VHS tapes. I went to see a live performance of it once it was amazing. I didn’t dress up because I’m a coward but I do remember standing next to a bloke in the urinals dressed in a leather skirt and fishnets. Thanks for sharing a great article and quite inspiring..
The closest I’ve ever got to seeing Rocky live was the BBC Anniversary special, but it’s always had a special place in my heart.
Go you! You have nailed: Don’t dream it, be it!
Now; I must go do the time warp again.
Don’t forget that jump to the left 🙂
But what about the step to the right? 🙂
but it’s the pelvic THRUST…
You are my new favorite person lol my friend; LETS DO THE TIME WARP AGAIN!
Woot! *high five*
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Oh how I remember dressing up and invading the theater with all my friends. Those days . . . Those memories!
Thank you so much!!!